Erica Wiggenhorn

Erica Wiggenhorn

ExTREEindgly Grateful: How To Let Go of Holiday Expectations

DSC_0823Grateful. Exceedingly so. That is how I want to feel this Christmas. Grateful that God came down. Grateful that He longs for me to know Him. Grateful for my family, our fledgling and long held traditions, our time together. But somehow Christmas trees get in the way…..

Here is my daughter’s Christmas tree. Notice there’s two of them. Molly, her American Girl doll, has her own tree as well. A Christmas tree for Molly was on Eliana’s Christmas list last year, along with specific requests for colored lights and jewel-toned ornaments.

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This is my son Nathan’s Christmas tree. He has a box of lights and ornaments for his tree as well, but this is his idea of a fully decorated tree.

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As of last Saturday morning, this is our family Christmas tree. All lit up, but still undecorated. Not that I prefer it that way- I just haven’t had time to decorate it yet.Notice that the fourth member of our family doesn’t have a Christmas tree. Truth be told, my husband would gladly ditch this giant tree in our family room for a three foot live tree where the salesman installs the stand for him.Four people, all with completely different definitions of what the “perfect tree” looks like. Eliana opened her box of ornaments and carefully laid out each one, and then expertly placed them on her tree with the same precision Frank Lloyd Wright used on his stained glass windows. Nathan, on the other hand, ripped open his box of ornaments, cast aside the knotted lights, dug out his favorite ornament and called it done. I have dealt with my tree decorating with my stereotypical procrastination, but it WILL be done before we host our family Christmas gathering!These definitions of what “perfect trees” look like flow into our expectations of Christmas as a whole. We ALL have expectations of what a “perfect Christmas” should be like, and just like my family and our trees, these expectations vastly vary among us. We think everyone should have our same definition of perfect and when they don’t, we get frustrated.

Nathan isn’t taking Eliana’s ornaments off of her tree and she isn’t trying to add lights onto his. They both have their trees the way they want them and they’re happy. Neither of them are nagging me to get the tree decorated, because they know it will get done. They are happy to turn it on with only the glittering lights. (My husband is still claiming to miss the fresh scent of pine!).

DSC_1004In the end, “perfect” is learning to love and enjoy each other for who we are, with all of our varying definitions and expectations. When we can appreciate our uniqueness and allow others to be themselves rather than insisting they become just like us, THEN we can have a perfect Christmas.

Well almost perfect……there’s still no fresh pine scent!

And then we can be grateful. Exceedingly so. Because we’re focused on the real meaning of Christmas and not our own quirky expectations.

Erica Wiggenhorn

A national speaker with Aspire Women’s Events, Erica also speaks at women’s retreats, large conferences or her own kitchen table. Erica longs to bring Scriptural Truth and see lives transformed. Erica also serves on the Proverbs 31 Ministries writing team. An award-winning author with Moody Publishers, she wants people to discover delight in God’s Word as they become equipped with tools to read it with confidence.  For free resources to help you study the Bible visit ericawiggenhorn.com. You can also find her almost every day on Instagram where she shares Phoenix life with her best friend Jonathan, and their four children– two of which are human and the others furry and adorable. 

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