We’ve all heard the saying, “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world,” but it often doesn’t feel like it when I’m prepping a pot roast or scrubbing one of my toilets. But in honor of all moms everywhere, I’m going to resolutely affirm that this saying is absolutely true. So in the middle of the mundane and the messy, here’s why you make all the difference in your child’s life, mom.
1. You’re the only one who loves your child for who they are and not what they can do. We live in a performance driven world perpetually on the hunt for winners. But no one wins every time and no one is the best at everything. Your child needs to build their sense of worth on the fact that God created them and they are unique and special because of who they are, not what they accomplished. Moms get that and our kids are looking to us for acceptance and reassurance when their performance isn’t always tip top.
2. You’re the only one who can see into the heart and the mind of your child. Often times we see children exhibit mannerisms and behaviors that can be frustrating or even annoying. Moms have the unique ability to understand what is going on in their child’s heart and mind to discern why those behaviors are happening. It’s that female sixth sense! We can get to the root of the issue and speak calm and truth into a troubled heart or a confused mind and help bring clarity. We also see how to pray most specifically for their needs: are they struggling with insecurity in a particular area, with self-doubt about their abilities, with jealousy or pride? We often see the inside and not just the outward behaviors.
3. You’re the only one who listens with her heart. Lots of times what our children need most is compassion. Moms don’t always feel like they have to “fix” their children. They understand that sometimes they just need a hug, or a funny joke, or a word of encouragement. Life is a process, not every problem needs to be solved immediately and children don’t expect them to be. Mostly what they need to know is that they are not alone in facing their difficulties. Moms understand the power of community and feeling strengthened by someone else’s support.
So mama, hang in there. God created YOU with a mind, eyes and heart for your child that no one else has. He has given YOU everything you need to comfort them, and steer them in the right direction. The noise of the world is loud, but the quiet refuge of your home speaks the most clearly. Keep praying, keep speaking and keep hugging. Your child is listening. Oh, and don’t forget to put your pot roast in the oven!
P.S. Dads are super awesome too…..and I’ll be sure and write a post about them next month!